What does it take to be happy? A new car? A new job? A new life? I think most people go through life chasing happiness much the way a dog chases its own tail. That pursuit, in and of itself, runs contrary to actually achieving a state of happiness.
I think we err, not by wanting to be happy, but by not understanding what happiness really is. We mistake the high we experience when in certain circumstances, such as when we get a raise or a new toy, for happiness. I would submit that indeed, those things make us happy, at least temporarily, but that feeling resides more in the object of our enhanced mood, rather than in ourselves.
Happiness is not so much a high as it is an intrinsic sense that all is well. I prefer to call this state contentment. For it is the sense of dis-ease that disrupts us. It is our own striving to always have more, to have better, to do more, to experience more that undercuts what we already have. When one understands one's own riches now, that striving ceases, and one marvels at the world as it is, rather than as we would make it.
It is easy to be distracted from this contentment when the car breaks down, the child is ill, the house needs repair, or any such thing. It is understandable that these things yank the comfy rug out from under us and leave us discontent. However, when we address the situation and look around, we most often see that not all is lost and that indeed, the ground on which we stand is still firm. This attitude adjustment does not ignore what needs our attention. It simply puts things in their place and gives us perspective.
It is easy to think that with enough money to fix your car, house, life, etc., you could easily be happy, and indeed, financial stress is a chief cause of unhappiness. Studies have shown that a moderate income overcomes this, but a large income brings additional stress. The trick, if there is one, is to understand what one actually has. Focus on that, rather than on what is missing, and contentment grows.
We can chase our tails seeking happiness or we can simply be content with who we are, what we have and the opportunities that are ours. Every life is filled with good and bad, loss and gain, meetings and leavings. As we breathe, we have life. As we live, we have much. Keep breathing.
